If you’re looking around thinking everyone else has got it figured out, it’s because we’ve gotten really good at hiding it. So I’m going to step on over and stand next to you. Now, look at me and hear me tell you -
I’m scared too.
I don’t feel good enough either.
I feel shame from years ago, and from this morning.
I look back and I can’t believe that was me. I look at today and I’m falling short right now (literally as I write this I feel guilty for not playing with my daughter). I look into the future and I think of all the ways I can mess it up.
If you’re like me....
You’re carrying around lies from your childhood, lies your peers have fed with their words, lies you’ve told yourself in the mirror. You’re dragging them around because letting go seems scary and acknowledging them seems impossible. You’re carrying around rejection and expectations. You’re feeling all the pressure and your gripping onto all of it.
But they are unnecessary limbs.
They seem like part of you but I promise… I promise you can leave them on the ground and walk. Away. I know, I know, I “don’t know how bad it is”. I don’t understand how serious the mistake you made was-- but I do. I’ve been there and so has the girl sitting next to you.
What happens when you carry too many things around? Your back breaks, your shoulders are out of socket, you have bags under your eyes- you're falling apart but it's become your "normal". Your heart longs to confess but your mouth says only pretty things. You can probably find a way to carry it all around for the rest of your life, drag them across the finish line… and then what?
Do you subconsciously think you can hustle your way into God’s good grace? - you’re in it honey. Let go of the damn things, you don't need them!
We only get this one chance to care for the body we have and to live an extraordinary life with all it’s ordinary moments.
You will stumble, but you will not fall.
You can’t to do this alone. So when you let go of all the baggage, I want you to grab two things.
Let someone be the shoulder you cry on and the person you confess to. Let her pray for you and care for you. Ask her questions, write her words on your heart, and find healing. Her faith will be strengthened by your willingness to learn, and your confidence will grow by your willingness to trust.
Now look around again. There’s someone that’s walking through things you’ve already seen victory in. She thinks there’s no way out. She thinks her only option is to follow what she’s told she’s “supposed to do”. Ignite her fire to be radical. Inspire her with your ordinary lessons. Care for her, welcome her, listen to her. Your life will be changed by this relationship. Live your life like that younger woman is watching you, waiting to take her cue to be full of integrity, strength, and vulnerability.
If you think you have nothing to teach, please understand that's the lie someone else believed when you needed help.
This has to be a collective “yes”. Because when someone’s on the floor, feeling like there’s nowhere to go, you need to be the hand reaching out to her and the reminder that the sun will rise again. It is written - you will not fall.
And when your marriage is beyond repair and you can’t see how it could be redeemed- there’s resurrection waiting.
When you hate your job but you don’t know where to start- you have gifts to use, and someone needs them.
When you need to confess something but you’re scared- secrets make you sick, you don’t have to do this alone.
When you’re harming yourself in socially acceptable ways or otherwise- let the sun rise on your suffering.
When you’ve started believing this is just “part of you”- you were created to thrive.
When you can’t make that payment but asking for help is worse than debt- vulnerability is beautiful.
When you can’t look yourself in the mirror and say “I’m beautiful” - try, there’s healing on your lips when you speak life.
When everything in your life looks picture perfect but you know somethings just not right- ask, seek, knock.
When you’re questioning and doubting and lost- you will not fall.
When you don’t even know how things are going because you haven’t stopped to notice- you will not fall.
When things are “fine”- you will not fall.
But I don’t need to tell you this … go find someone who will.
Psalm 46:5 God is within her, she will not fall;
I'll always go first to make space for your story.