1. TEAMWORK IS REQUIRED FOR SURVIVAL
When we were handed the keys to the rental car, we thought "oh, this will be easy driving on the left side of the road." It took about 9 seconds in the car to realize we were in for it. Brian was frantically asking me which direction he was supposed to go on the highway where he was driving in 4 lanes at a time and was fearing for my life. We had few screaming matches before realizing 1. we cant blame each other for not knowing where to go in a country we had never been to. and 2. we needed each other. He had to trust me to navigate and I had to trust him to not end my life at 24. It was incredible to see our growth in teamwork and how that moved it's way into other parts of our communication. We realized that we both love to be part of a team where we know our role... as simple as it sounds, that realization has changed our marriage for the better.
2. CELEBRATE THE WINS
Trials are vital for a good trip... the key is learning how to celebrate the wins together. We are terrible about doing this in our day to day lives so we practiced it constantly in Ireland. From compromising on the food order to finding the secret road down the coast, every win deserves a hop, skip, jump, laugh, kiss... something!
3. CELEBRATE THE LOSES
Then there are the moments where you try and fail... like when you get to the Trinity Library in Dublin at 4:33 and it closed at 4:30... and it's your last day in Dublin. It's the saddest moment but it's still your last day, you need to be able to (TOGETHER) mourn, encourage, and move the heck on. We were SO SAD. But we found a performance of Bach's Passion of St. Mark in this old Chapel (built in 1798) on campus and it was absolutely stunning.
I'll always go first to make space for your story.